It is NOT a bad hair day
My life has been centered around my hair. My mom was a beautician and she was doing my hair from the moment I was born. My aunts were getting their hair done for dances as I watched rows of ratted curls grow high upon their heads, with ringlets in the back. That was my favorite transformation. Also my aunts would use soup cans to get big straight curls. It was alway the center of conversation around my house.
I love this story…
An associate of mine was telling me that she was recently divorced and her former husband had always insisted that she grew her hair out. She was feeling really defiant and was drinking with her friends on evening and all of a sudden she said, “Let’s shave my head” She started chopping and finally they got to a bic razor. To the point that she was shiny bald. She woke up the next morning and looked at herself in the mirror and said,”Oh my heck, I’ve got to go to work!” She went to work and she was fine.
It is pretty common to see a shaved head. I would give my boys a butch haircut every summer . It was easy and cool. For the most part they liked it. People are shaving their heads for many reasons, it is easy and it feels good in the shower. I have asked individuals why they shaved their head,” Most of them just think it looks good with a beard, there hair is getting thin, or they did it on accident or on a dare and now like it.
The difference for me was my hair defined me. My question for you is, “What defines you?” Think about what defines you and take it away. What are you? Who are you? Where do you go from here.
I would plan my hair around my schedule for the week. If I was swimming , hiking, teaching dance or working in an office. It was a factor of life planning.
We all have our bald head moments, I know this because just about everyone I know has had a dream that they are bare naked in front of a crowd… I personally, have had it several times.
I see people freeze their lives because of their bald headed situation. They don’t progress, or try new things, they keep going in the same cycle. They make the same mistake over and over again.
Through observation I have seen,” bald moments,” over power a person’s life.
Hate is a big bald moment. When people hate it eats at them, they stay stuck in their own bald moment.
Jealousy and comparison is a bald moment. I even had a person say to me,”My hair is finally longer than yours” I gave it to her. Yes, finally my hair doesn’t define me. She can have the long hair.
Fear is a bald moment. I have found that when I let fear overpower me I am stuck. I am constantly checking into letting the fear go and taking another step forward. When I see myself making the same mistake over and over I know I am in a “bald moment” I don’t have to stay there. I need to put on a hat, smile and face the world.
My last chemo was in November 2015. I have had several trims and shaping’s. People just think I have a pixie haircut now. I have dyed it about 5 times. The 1st couple of times was a wash out and didn’t really hold. It has came back pretty much the same thickness but much curlier.
The common question I am getting asked is ,”will keep it short or grow it out.” I have to admit that I am not sure what style is next. Growing it out is a tricky process. My hair goes to the mullet naturally in a short time and even though I am a hippie girl, I really don’t want a mullet. I have been know to say,”When you have hair it isn’t a bad hair day”
No decisions of how I want my hair to be eventually have been made. It has grown 2inches in the last 8 months! I can only think to this Saturday, and a trim is about to happen.