Happiness is a choice!

Life is hard and when we get through hard we can have a good life

We can be grateful for the “hards,” in our life. We all have them. They are the hard life situations that we think we cannot get through and then we do and we are better because of what we went through. The adversary wants us to think that when we have trials in our lives we did something to deserve it. That we did something wrong and God is punishing us. This is simply not true. This is life and life experiences. As we go through life people die that we love, we have failures and disappointments. People let us down and hurt us. We fight within our own heads that we are not enough. We are not good enough for the blessings and a good life.  I have found that when we do get through these art life experiences, we can be grateful and learn from them. We are better because of them.

I married the love of my life after I gave birth to 5 children and had been married for almost 25 years to my first husband. I had a lot of insecurities After I married Jim, a longtime friend of the family, I was devastated that I had stayed married to my first husband so long and realized how dysfunctional our marriage had been. I kept telling Jim that he was so nice.

We both have talked about how it would have been if we had started out 30 years ago with each other. It is interesting that our paths barely missed over and over. We have both came to the realization that we are not the same people we were 30 years ago. Because of the hard that we went through it prepared us to appreciate each other. We would have loved growing up together. We are perfect together because the hard molded us into who we are today.

Life has not been easy for us blending families and starting a new marriage. The past 11 years have been hard. Did you know that when you get through hard, you can have a good life? It is true, every so often we feel the wonderment of that good life! The good life is moments of peace, moments of calm and getting through each hard and being better because of them. Then we are ready for the next hard.