{"id":1995,"date":"2019-05-25T14:51:04","date_gmt":"2019-05-25T20:51:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/iamahappygirl.com\/wp\/?p=1995"},"modified":"2019-06-02T14:41:45","modified_gmt":"2019-06-02T20:41:45","slug":"i-can-do-it-you-can-too","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/iamahappygirl.com\/wp\/2019\/05\/25\/i-can-do-it-you-can-too\/","title":{"rendered":"I Can Do It, You Can Too"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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\u201cI want a man, whose children are all out of the house, well, maybe one little girl, and who is all about me and my boys!\u201d I said to my friends as we sat around and talked about dating again after failing at the prior marriage. We all had our preferences of men. I was sure of myself. I had made a list of what I wanted and needed. If they didn\u2019t make the cut, they were out. I had no time to waste on men that didn\u2019t pass the cut. \u00a0I was determined that if I was going to marry, he would match my list perfectly.

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After another weekend going out with my friends to another singles dance, I was discouraged. \u201cI am not going to find my match,\u201d I said to myself. \u201cI can be happy alone, I know I can, I am tired of dating and wasting my time. I need to focus on a career and a new life with my boys. \u201cAs I knelt down for my nightly prayers, I poured my heart out to God. \u201cI am tired of heartache. Please take the desires of companionship away. Let my life be full of children, grandchildren and career.\u201c

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I started focusing on providing for myself and my children. I called a longtime friend and neighbor to help with a website. I had taught his children piano lessons before and I knew he would trade me lessons for a website. He had been divorced for 4 years. He was safe, he didn\u2019t fit my list. He has 9 children and is not a cowboy. Two strikes and he is off the list of possibilities.<\/p>\n\n

To play it safe we met for dinner and I had a meeting 1 hour after we sat down. I told him I would pay for myself. I missed the meeting I was supposed to go to after our dinner meeting. A week later we went on a date and I kissed him. (or we would still be dating 11 years later) We were married a month later.<\/p>\n

How could I have the faith to marry a man with 9 children? The answer is I trust. I trust God. He is bigger than me. I believe in\u00a0 THE FAMILY: A Proclamation to the World, “THE FIRST COMMANDMENT that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife.”\u00a0<\/p>\n

Now it is our 11th<\/sup> anniversary. The first time I kissed him I felt like I was finally home. I will admit that I cussed and then paced back and forth. This was NOT on my list. This is bigger than me. This is way harder than I ever wanted. This coming home has stretched me beyond my own capacity.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n

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I imagine to myself in my premortal life, this is how it went. I faced God the Eternal Father and Jesus my brother, with shoulders back and chin up, \u201d I want to learn everything I can on earth. Give it to me, I can do it! \u201c Jesus tilted his head and said, \u201cThis is going to be big, bigger than you can imagine,\u201d I said,\u201d Will you be there for me?\u201d He said,\u201d Every step of the way,\u201d then I looked down in fear and quietly exclaimed,\u201d Then I can do it.\u201d

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When your heart is torn in shreds<\/p>\n\n

Why trust again?<\/p>\n

Because growth is what we own.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is ours to keep<\/span><\/p>\n

This is the place to learn,<\/span><\/p>\n

The place called earth.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/p>\n

You are not alone<\/span><\/p>\n

I am not alone<\/span><\/p>\n

We have our brother <\/span><\/p>\n

Father<\/span><\/p>\n

Watching over us<\/span><\/p>\n

Believing in us<\/span><\/p>\n

They are here to pick us up<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/p>\n

How do we move past a broken heart?<\/span><\/p>\n

We face the fear<\/span><\/p>\n

Feel the fear<\/span><\/p>\n

We do it anyway<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/p>\n

Then we do it again<\/span><\/p>\n

And again<\/span><\/p>\n

Because<\/span><\/p>\n

This is the place<\/span><\/p>\n

Of maximum growth <\/span><\/p>\n

The place called earth<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/p>\n

When we leave our home<\/span><\/p>\n

What do we take?<\/span><\/p>\n

Knowledge<\/span><\/p>\n

Growth<\/span><\/p>\n

Experience<\/span><\/p>\n

Love<\/span><\/p>\n

Hope<\/span><\/p>\n

Courage<\/span><\/p>\n

Fear<\/span><\/p>\n

Own it, it is yours <\/span><\/p>\n

It is mine<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/p>\n

What will you take from earth? <\/span><\/p>\n





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